Choćby pił, choćby bił, byle był.
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What it means
“Even if he drinks, even if he beats, as long as he’s there.” A darkly ironic proverb about the desperation of women (historically) to have a husband at any cost, tolerating abuse rather than face the social stigma of being alone.
Vocabulary
- choćby — even if
- pić — to drink (here: to drink excessively)
- bić — to beat, to hit
- byle — as long as, provided that
- być — to be (here: to be present, to exist as a husband)
Grammar note
Three parallel 'choćby/byle' clauses, all using the conditional mood. The rhyme pił / bił / był makes it memorable.
Cultural context
This proverb is now cited critically as evidence of historical gender inequality and the social pressure on women to remain in abusive relationships. It is not endorsed as advice.
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